How To Help Your Children To Have A Positive Attitude
Most of us act and react to our environment based on unconscious patterns acquired during childhood. Almost without realizing it, these thought tendencies limit or expand us. That is why it is important to help your children develop a positive attitude.
This inclination towards positive or negative thinking begins to anchor itself very early in our psyche, and begins to direct our perception of the events around us. We must, therefore, begin as soon as possible to train the minds of our little ones towards the great gift that is a positive attitude.
We do not see what it is, but what we are
For a long time, the cognitive currents of psychology have been postulating that each of us interprets reality through our own filter made up of our beliefs. That is, between what really happens and what I perceive there is a space in which our mind operates.
For most of us, this filtering process goes unnoticed and we simply take it for granted that what I perceive is reality, and that this is the only possible reality. On the other hand, if we are able to become aware of this process, we will understand why some people see life in pink and others in dark gray.
In conclusion: you do not have the ability to completely control what happens in your life, but you do have the absolute power to decide how to react to it.
Benefits of staying positive
If you invest time and effort in helping your child develop a positive vision, you are giving him a gift that will accompany him throughout his life.
Having a positive attitude strengthens our self-esteem, the perception of our inner power to face challenges. A positive person knows that there is his own source of stability and happiness, and that he has emotional independence. Hence, you do not feel the need to please, please, or seek external approval.
Someone with this vision is clear that success depends only on himself and has the confidence to pursue it. In addition, he is able to take responsibility for his actions and to learn from each adverse situation.
How to prevent your children from developing a negative attitude
The environment in which we operate has a powerful influence on our mentality. Growing up with a rarefied environment at home, surrounded by negative energy, will make the situation familiar and internalize it as our own. And even that we look for it unconsciously, because it is what we are used to.
Being exposed to critical people who have made the complaint their way of life will lower our mood and can even generate anxiety. The same will happen with those people who continually try to undermine our morale and limit us.
It is important to keep our children away from toxic people and environments, and to provide them with the most positive and nurturing environments possible.
How to help your children have a positive attitude
- Help them develop a healthy self-talk. Get them used to saying to themselves: “I am capable, I can improve, I can achieve it”
- Be a role model of positivity and optimism. Try to show yourself as someone who is cheerful, stable and confident in yourself and in life.
- Teach them the value of negative emotions. Help them to know how to identify them, feel them and listen to their message. As well as knowing how to transcend them, taking out an apprenticeship, instead of getting stuck in them.
- Train them to be their own center, so that they remember to seek balance and happiness in themselves and not in other people’s opinions.
- Explain that it is healthy and acceptable to stay away from toxic environments and people. And that in case they have to live with them, they must have a mental shield of protection so that negativity does not penetrate them.
- Try to instill in them the importance of self-care. From healthy habits such as a good diet, frequent physical exercise and contact with nature. It enhances introspection as a beneficial way of listening and getting to know each other, and contact with others as a way to enrich and share.
- Always remind them that life is full of beauty, of people who love them, of opportunities to enjoy. And that bad times always serve to strengthen us and rediscover how much love and support we have around us.
